This may be referring to business and whatnot but I feel that I can apply this to my current situation as well.
I failed at my job as a mother by letting them be taken from me.  I failed myself by letting everything get to this point.  I’m single.  I don’t have my children.  And I’ll have to spend the holidays alone.  Failure sucks.
But I need to deal with it.  And beating myself up isn’t going to do it.