I decided to declare the last Friday of every month to be F*ck-It Fridays because that’s usually how I feel at the end of the month after all the stress that happened that month and the feeling of dread for the upcoming month with concerns with what is life going to throw at me now?

We’ve all felt this at least twice in our lives.  The saying “when it rains it pours” is a cliché for a reason.  And when has worrying about a problem ever solved it?  Never.  Not even once.  The only thing that can solve a problem is getting up and doing something about it and sometimes the only thing you can do is sit and wait for the right piece of the puzzle to fall into place before you can make the rest fit.

When we’re neck deep in crap, it becomes our main focus.  We forget there are other people in our lives with their own problems and their own struggles.  Sometimes it can get to the point where we come off as completely insensitive and self-centered.  Unintentional as it may be, we still become completely unpleasant to be around when we get like this.  And we’ve all had that one friend that went through a plethora of struggles and it didn’t seem to matter just how much we cared for that person, we find ourselves drifting away from that person not out of disinterest but because we feel at a loss for what to say to them when you’ve heard the story a thousand times already and we’ve already done everything we could to help.
When faced with this situation, the urge to shake our friend and slap them and scream “What more do you want from me?  You’ve been whining about this same problem for weeks now.  It hasn’t helped any, so just stop it!” is very tempting.  But because we don’t want to seem like we’re kicking our friend while we’re down, we just listen.  And listen.  And listen.  And nod.  And give the usual string of noncommittal comments like “uh huh” “yeah” “I feel you” “man that’s messed up” to we reach a point where we don’t even hear them anymore.

Now, let me remind you, this is completely not for lack of concern or care for the other person.  And if we’re honest with ourselves, we can all admit we’re all guilty of this.  But I’m not here to condemn those of us who are guilty of this social faux pas because we all are at some point or another.

Nope.  Instead I’m here to say that we need to chill out.  Just calm down and forget about our problems and spend this weekend with our friends not talking about our problems or struggles and stresses.  We’re just going to drive ourselves and everyone around us completely insane if we don’t.  The only way to do this is to get over ourselves and think about our friends and family instead of our problems even if it’s just for this one weekend.  Or, if you’re working this weekend, forget about your problems and just focus on your tasks.  I know work is stressful and you probably have co-workers whose faces, you’ve probably imagined smashing with the cash register or bedazzling with a staple gun, but just for this weekend, forget about your feelings about it and just do what has to be done.  Before you know it, it’ll be time to go home so you can unwind and shake off the tension of work.

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